Our lives are shaped by the choices we make and can be changed on a whim; the snap of a finger or the blink of an eye.
If only we hadn’t driven ‘that ‘ way home , we would not have had that accident; flat tyre; run out of petrol.
If only we had taken the train instead of the bus we wouldn’t have missed the job interview. The one that could have meant a new career, a new direction.
What would have happened if we had said “Yes” instead of “No”, or vice versa ?
And if we hadn’t been in a certain place at a certain time we would never have met our partners; best friends; long lost relations; whatever !
The wonderings and “What if…” s go on in a never ending list.
I often wonder if I would do things differently if I had the chance to try again. Or would I make the same decisions, choose the same path ? Of course, I am assuming I would have the chance to make these choices with the benefit of hindsight. That would be the easy way. Wouldn’t we all change “something” if we could ? ………… Or perhaps you are all so contented with your lives that you would do it all again ………. exactly as before ?
Its enticing to imagine that we could choose another direction, but, of course, our choices have a “knock on “ effect. They involve other peoples lives too. If I had done things differently I may not have my children and delightful grand children; my dogs and my friends. But would I have another different family ? ………. I will never know.
I am happy in my own skin …….. My choices have made me the person I am and I don’t think I would change that. But sometimes …..just sometimes ……. I wonder ………….
I am wrestling with some difficult choices now, we all do every day. Whatever I decide, I am aware that it will shape my life in the future. I made choices so lightly in the past, with all the carelessness of youth. But now I am older I have come to realise how one little decision, one casual word, can change everything.
I would love to hear what you think.
Would you change anything ?
Do you have regrets ?
I have thought carefully about those questions and have decided that, in the main, there is very little I would change. Just the odd thing ……..here and there. Although, perhaps in the 1980s I wouldn’t have had a green streak in my hair !!